This is a reminder that members of marginalized groups are NEVER obligated to engage with or debate privileged people who are attempting to “play devils advocate” with our oppression. What is, for them, an interesting philosophical game and topic which their privilege allows them disconnect from, at the same time for us a deeply-seated and immensely emotional part of our history and it is virtually impossible to access those stories without interacting with the pain it has caused us. “Debating” oppression that has been directly experienced can be deeply wounding and emotionally exhausting. You do not owe privileged people a debate or proof or education about your oppression. Your history and story belong to you and no one else.